Liza Wallace Writes

while being a mother…

December 12, 2022

The best mothers to connect with are mothers who can reinforce pride in you being a mom.

I see a lot of “I love my child but I miss my old self” narratives and they’re understandable but I wonder why the attachment?

Do you feel like you lost yourself and your sense of individuality when you became a mom? Do you know how to reconnect with that part of you as a mom without separating the two things?

You don’t have to lose anything except the old habits and thinking frames that no longer align with you when you raise a child. It’s not the same but when you know how to, it’s a lot better.

I extend a lot of empathy towards moms who are like “I love my children but I miss being childless” it’s not easy, I get it.

It’s not easy but things worth having take a little more effort. I love being a mom and I love being someone who strives to be my own person while being a mom too.
what if we don’t know what we don’t know?

December 9, 2022

What if we are all wrong because as humans we think there are only facts and fiction or truth and lies, that trusted binary when there could be more intended to be known?

We don’t know what we don’t know and we don’t even know if there’s such thing as a god but assume there is or isn’t? What if that’s not even the question that leads to the answer we are wondering?

Like we have various beliefs on various things and what is that besides our conscience expanding?

Things humans can’t even explain yet and we have to trust that there are only facts and lies?

And here comes perspective, kept out of that dialect.

Then people speak as if reality is not just one thing either but multiple things like multiple realities. And our understanding shifts in different contexts and experiences. Our experiences and beliefs essentially make us who we are and we are individual conscience entities that remain connected to a collective

Which brings back the scientific question, what is consciousness? Is that something related to having a soul, being moral, or being an individual?

Or are we just organic computers who identify with labels to describe our collection of beliefs and experiences? There would be no Liz outside of my physical body and mind…

And when I die, I will simply shut down as a system before my organic material just rots away soon after.

God, what if organic material is just smaller entities of consciousness that know how to keep themselves alive.
but is the customer really always right?

November 28, 2022

Have you ever had a lesson on how to make a customer service-related call? Maybe we can use a lesson here and there on how to get what we want when making a call to a customer service rep. Or how to get what you want from customer service?

As disgruntled customers, we don’t know how to help ourselves better when we do not know how to use customer service appropriately to get to a resolution. We just think bitching and screaming at the rep would solve our problems because “the customer is always right.”

I used to work in customer service and I gained a lot from being in the work that I genuinely love de-escalating issues and providing solutions to dissatisfied customers. Making their frowns upside down and whatnot.

It’s been a couple years since I’ve worked in that position and my partner made me realize… I don’t know how to complain efficiently. (I’m also the type to cry over frustration when I am having a hard time trying to get a solution so yeah, he’s not wrong.)

To answer the above question in the title, no the customer is not always right but the customer is a priority so if we can help them, we do. If we cannot, we direct them to someone who can in our efforts to seek out a resolution they can be satisfied with.

I have no formal training in leading workshops or teaching credentials in this but I just thought it would be amazing if we sought out more skills like this, what would they be called: conflict resolution skills in a customer-service context as the customer? We can learn to get what we want AND also be better customers for our providers because even though we are paying for a service, we could go farther if we are nice to our provider’s employees. They are the face of the company and OUR way to get what we want from them.

I just watched my partner make a call to our electric company and he came out of it with a better result than I did when I tried calling them earlier today… and yeah, I was schooled. I took down some mental notes and now I’m eager to see how my next opportunity to learn comes up.

I have no bullet points to make but this is something we probably can gather from our own experiences along the way.

I shall remain curious along the way.
get into that shadow work, girl

November 26, 2022

If men can admit they’re awful at times, why can’t women too?

Get into that shadow work, girl; it doesn’t serve us to just try to keep being good.

Learn when it’s necessary to be bad.

Some believe that A person who doesn’t know when to be bad or doesn’t know when to use evil isn’t a good person. They’re a weak person. Being weak isn’t a bad thing but if you want to be safe and in better situations, you know you gotta have some strength. ALWAYS Being weak or vulnerable isn’t a really good option.

A truly good person is someone who knows that they have the capacity to be evil but chooses to be good anyway.

Be vulnerable when it’s safe. Be a monster when it’s life or death.

Don’t play with shadow work just to be a happy, healed sunshine girl.

If you’re going to delve into it, be aware that it’s not about healing.
Shadow work is not meant to heal you.

It definitely benefits many that way but like the real intentions behind shadow work, people will never go far to understand its primary purpose.

Just because they want to stop the pain and go.
The pain isn’t meant to be stopped, not entirely.

What is the purpose or ultimate goal of Shadow work then, Liz?

I’ll explain that later.
how could anything that feels good be bad?

November 22, 2022

I was reading a private confession posted online in a forum website I shall not name, as it’s irrelevant. I thought it was interesting that the person who posted it spoke of working for a high-profile predator that I will also not name because their name deserves no space here and while working for this high-profile predator, there were moments where the writer of the confession brings up an interesting observation while seeing said predator in a potentially vulnerable moment.

Frankly, the monster here having any vulnerable moment is not worthy of any empathy that you, dear reader, may be able to hold for them. I doubt you would want to bother knowing anything to feel sorry for this entity but I made interesting connections to their thoughtful moment with some thoughts I’ve been harboring for a while about hedonism.

If you are not familiar with hedonism, to engage in hedonistic behavior is to pursue all pleasure or sensual self-indulgence. Is it a good thing? I will leave that up for you to decide but on to my point here…

This entity in mind asked the writer “how could anything that feels good could be bad?” (actual quote from their writing). Coming from a hedonistic predator, that question made my eyebrows rise so high, I thought I lost them after reading that line. He briefly spoke to the writer about hedonism before letting him go – this the writer did not elaborate any further on but I would have been curious to look into why…

Or rather how… how does someone who has committed so much harm in the name of hedonism even get to a point to ask such a philosophical question?

It makes me wonder what kind of pain was this entity avoiding? What kind of relationship this entity had with its pain?

What kind of motivations did this person have?
What did they run from? What were the truths that they were trying to deny?
How lost were they in their lives to think this question even was worth asking?

Not that it’s a bad question, but the context behind it makes it awful to think about.

What is the problem with pleasure, my friend?

How far can people take pleasure?
By then, is it still… pleasure?

Liza Wallace Writes

while being a mother…

what if we don’t know what we don’t know?

but is the customer really always right?

get into that shadow work, girl

how could anything that feels good be bad?